Let me guess.
You finally got the clarity you’ve been praying for—the offer, the vision, the plan that makes your body light up like a damn firework. You opened your laptop, cracked your knuckles, got ready to make magic and then…
You froze.
Not a little pause. Not a cute breather. I’m talking full-body what the hell is wrong with me, why can’t I move paralysis.
And just like that, the shame starts whispering:
“You said this was your year.”
“Why are you still stuck?”
“Maybe you’re not cut out for this.”
Breathe, baby. That’s not failure talking. That’s your nervous system doing its very protective, very outdated job.
Let’s unpack this—Forleo-style, sass intact.
Step 1: You’re Not Lazy—You’re in an Identity Shift
You’re not procrastinating. You’re repatterning.
Your old identity hustled for crumbs, overdelivered for people who underpaid you, and performed for love that should’ve been unconditional.
But this version of you? The one setting boundaries, claiming space, choosing peace over panic?
She’s foreign to your nervous system.
And when your brain encounters “foreign,” it doesn’t throw a party. It hits pause.
Because in your wiring, unfamiliar = unsafe.
You’re not stuck. You’re stepping into safety—but your body hasn’t caught up to the memo yet.
Step 2: The Freeze is a Trauma Echo, Not a Personality Flaw
Let’s science this up for a sec.
There are four trauma responses: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn. You didn’t pick your favorite like a Starbucks order—your nervous system picked what kept you safe.
And if you grew up around chaos, control, or conditional love?
You learned: do nothing = stay invisible = stay safe.
That freeze you’re feeling? It’s not weakness. It’s an old strategy kicking in, trying to keep you small because small once meant survival.
But you’re not that little girl anymore.
You’re the damn CEO now. And this business you’re building? It’s the rewrite.
Step 3: Feast Mode Can Trigger Old Scarcity Wounds
Ever notice how when you finally get the time, money, or space to create—you shut down?
That’s not a fluke. That’s a flashback.
Your body remembers the time you had a breakthrough… and someone pulled the rug. The time you felt safe… and got blindsided. The time you gave your all… and got nothing back.
So now? Feast mode feels dangerous.
Because your system learned: “Success = crash coming.”
Girl, your body isn’t wrong. It’s just working off expired data.
You’re not in that cycle anymore. You’re writing a new one.
Step 4: Let’s Rewire This, CEO-Style
Here’s your assignment, hot off the nervous system press:
a) Name the Freeze, Don’t Shame It
Next time you feel yourself shutting down, say: “Ohhh, hi freeze. I see you. But we’re safe now. We’re building—not bracing.”
That moment of naming it? It reclaims your power in real time.
b) Say This Every Morning (Yes, Out Loud)
Hand on your heart. Deep breath. Say:
“I am safe in success. I am safe in power. I am safe when things go well.”
You’re training your body to trust peace.
c) Create a Mini ‘Feast Mode’ Action Plan
When money, time, or clarity comes in, don’t panic—plan.
Keep it simple. Just list 3 things you’ll focus on. For example:
Upload my freebie
Email my list
Record one video
That’s it. No pressure. No over-planning. Just a roadmap that says: “This time, we use the feast to exit famine.”
d) One-Thing Yourself to Death (In the Best Way)
When you freeze, don’t try to do everything. Do one thing.
Say: “All I have to do right now is open my laptop.” That’s it.
The next thing will come once the first thing starts moving.
Final Reframe to Anchor in Your Body
Put your hand on your chest. Let this sink in:
“The old story said: I get stuck when things go right.
The new story says: I rise because I’m finally safe to grow.”
You are not broken. You are brilliant. You are not a procrastinator. You are a protector who’s finally safe to stop protecting and start building.
And baby—what you’re building?
It’s not just a business. It’s a legacy.
Let the freeze come. But don’t let it stay.
You’ve got things to write. People to lead. And a throne to reclaim.
Now you: Write your “I’m safe to build” list today.
Just 3 bold, clear actions that say: “I’m not in survival anymore. I’m in strategy now.”
Tag me when you do it—and tell your own community.
Let’s make “doing one thing” the new power move.
Because the most successful women aren’t the ones who never freeze.
They’re the ones who know how to melt through it.
You in?
Now, tag me @poweredbyjess on all socials and spill the tea. I want to hear about those breakthrough moments, because darling, we are not here to play small—we’re here to SLAY.
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