Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you feel like a five-year-old having a meltdown over something ridiculously trivial?
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you feel like a five-year-old having a meltdown over something ridiculously trivial?You’re not alone! Let’s dive into how those childhood patterns shape our adult lives and how we can kick them to the curb like last season’s trends.
Picture this:
You’re in a meeting, and someone dismisses your idea. Suddenly, you feel that familiar sting in your chest, and before you know it, you’re ready to throw your stapler across the room. Why does that happen?
Spoiler alert: it’s all rooted in our childhood!
What Are Childhood Patterns?
Let’s break it down.
Childhood patterns are the little emotional habits we picked up when we were tiny humans. You know, when someone said “no” to us, and we threw ourselves on the floor in a fit of rage? Fast forward to adulthood, and—guess what?—those reactions still linger, except now it’s over email or during board meetings.
Charming, right?
The Impact of Childhood Experiences on Adult Behavior
Here’s the deal:
Everything from our self-image to how we handle rejection is shaped by those early years. Didn’t get enough praise from mom and dad when you nailed your kindergarten artwork?
Now you’re hustling for validation like your life depends on it. Same thing with being told you were “too much” as a kid—now you second-guess every bold move you make.
I once had a moment where I realized a job interview was triggering that old childhood need to please. I found myself downplaying my talents. Yeah, it was a wake-up call!
No one wants to be the adult who cries over a paper cut. But if you’ve been there, I see you, and I totally get it.
Recognizing and Acknowledging Your Patterns
Here’s the fun part:
Recognizing these patterns is like connecting the dots of your life. Start noticing how you react to criticism, rejection, or even praise. Do you spiral? Shrug it off? Once you spot the pattern, you’ve got the power to change it.
PRO TIP:
Keep a journal or do some mindful reflection. Trust me, when you spot those old triggers, it’s like unlocking the ultimate cheat code for your life.
Because, honey, if you can’t connect the dots, how are you supposed to create the masterpiece that is your life?
Spoiler: You can’t!
Breaking the Cycle—How to Move Forward
So, how do you break free from these patterns? First, realize it’s not a one-and-done. It takes effort (and maybe a little therapy). But you’ve got this. Try mindfulness, learn new tools, or join a community (ahem, hello, that’s what I’m here for!).
I still remember my first breakthrough moment where instead of reacting to a trigger, I paused. Just that small shift was everything.
You’re not just breaking patterns; you’re slaying them like the fierce warrior you are. Channel your inner Beyoncé, baby, and rewrite that narrative.
Celebrate Your Progress
Every little step counts. Maybe you didn’t cry when your boss criticized your work this time. Or maybe you finally said “no” without the guilt. Celebrate those wins—because they’re proof you’re evolving into the boss you were meant to be.
Whether you fought off a panic attack or didn’t lose it when someone cut you off in traffic, every win counts, darling! So let’s hear those cheers and pop that champagne!
Breaking free from childhood patterns isn’t a race; it’s a journey, babe.
Let’s embrace those quirks, channel our inner toddler when needed (because sometimes, yes, you deserve to stomp those feet), and step boldly into the fabulous adults we’re destined to be.
Alright, queens, time to put this wisdom into action with a little homework—but trust me, this one’s all about leveling YOU up.
Here’s the assignment:
Next time you feel that old childhood pattern creeping in—whether it’s over-apologizing, people-pleasing, or biting your tongue when you know you should speak up—hit pause. Take a breath, remind yourself you’re a grown woman in control, and choose a new reaction.
And don’t keep this glow-up to yourself!
Tag me @poweredbyjess on all socials and spill the tea. I want to hear about those breakthrough moments, because darling, we are not here to play small—we’re here to SLAY.
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